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LOSING A LOVED ONE ~ BEREAVEMENT
The death of a loved one can be devastating, bereavement affects people in different ways. There's no right or wrong way to feel.
Stages of bereavement or grief:
Experts generally accept there are four stages of bereavement:
- accepting that your loss is real
- experiencing the pain of grief
- adjusting to life without the person who has died
- putting less emotional energy into grieving and putting it into something new – in other words, moving on
You'll probably go through all these stages, but you won't necessarily move smoothly from one to the next. Your grief might feel chaotic and out of control, but these feelings will eventually become less intense.
Feelings of grief:
Give yourself time – these feelings will pass. You might feel:
- shock and numbness – this is usually the first reaction to the death, and people often speak of being in a daze
- overwhelming sadness, with lots of crying
- tiredness or exhaustion
- anger – for example, towards the person who died, their illness, or God
- guilt – for example, guilt about feeling angry, about something you said or didn't say, or about not being able to stop your loved one dying
Coping with grief:
Talking and sharing your feelings with someone can help. Don't go through this alone. For some people, relying on family and friends is the best way to cope.
If you don't feel you can talk to them much – perhaps you aren't close, or they're grieving, too – you can contact local bereavement services through:
Cruse Bereavement offer advice,support ( including counselling) and information for those that have lost a loved one.
Supporting Young People Facing Grief. Everyone will experience,bereavement during their life, but for young people, the death of a parent or another important person in their lives can be terrible to deal with.
Young people need time to be listened to and to speak about their fears and hopes for the future, but sometimes that’s difficult when others in the family are coping with their own grief. It can be helpful for young people to have support from someone outside of the family, to enable them to share their thoughts and emotions, which if left unexpressed, can lead to anger, disruptive behaviour and concentration issues at school.
Our counsellors, in Cambridgeshire, can help by listening and encouraging young people to express their painful emotions through creative play and work.
Hope again is the youth website of Cruse Bereavement Care. It is a safe place where you can learn from other young people, how to cope with grief, and feel less alone.
The Sue Ryder Charity charity offers emotional support going through grief or for those that have a relative with a terminal illness. http://www.sueryder.org/advice-support/grief-publication
Child Bereavement UK is a national charity which offers support to Children facing bereavement or to families having experienced the loss of a child.
Winstons Wish is a charity specialising in helping young people and children cope with the bereavement of a parent or sibling.
SOBS offer support for those that are survivors of bereavement through suicide.
Dying matters offers support around the death of a loved one or for those pre-bereavement
Maggies centre in Cambridge offers emotional and practical support to those where a member of the family has cancer.
The NHS has lots of useful advice and support during Bereavement which can be found HERE
BBC Radio 1 has lots of information for young people on coping with grief which can be found HERE
Pop star George Shelley from Union J talks about his struggle with grief following the death of his sister-watch the programme on BBC iplayer HERE