How can I help myself?
Self-harm is when someone chooses to inflict pain on themselves in some way. It is a sign of distress and can take many forms. Often self-harm is someone's way of coping with feelings,and is a sign that something is wrong. Self-harm can be dangerous, and it is a sign that there is an underlying problem, therefore you should get help. Below are some organisations that give more information on ways to address self-harm as well as some key services that can help in Cambridgeshire & Peterborough. There is also more information on services available on the following pages: Local Support and National Support
It can be hard to know what to do if someone tells you they are self-harming, but there are things you can do to help people get the support they need:
Young Mind's 5 tips for when a friend tells you they are self-harming:
- Don't panic
- Offer to listen
- Help them to find support (Cambridgeshire and Peterborough support: https://www.keep-your-head.com/cyp/CP-MHS/who-else-can-help-me/further-support)
- Be there for them in the long haul
- Look after yourself
For more information on any of these tips visit: https://youngminds.org.uk/blog/five-things-you-can-do-if-someone-tells-you-they-are-self-harming/
These are also some leaflets that you may find helpful:
Centre 33 leaflet: For parents and carers: For professionals:
Young Minds & The Charlie Waller Memorial Trust have produced a range of resources and films for young people, parents and professionals.
About Calm Harm
The urge to self-harm is like a wave.
It feels the most powerful when you start wanting to do it.
Learn to ride the wave with the free Calm Harm app using these activities:
Comfort, Distract, Express Yourself, Release, Random and Breathe
Read stories, ask questions get answers and information on self-harm.
Life Signs provides lots of helpful advice and information about self-harm which is shaped by those that use the site.
The National Self Harm Network has a supportive forum for those that are experiencing self-harm.
Harmless is shaped by the people that use the website, and provides a range of services about self-harm including support, information, training and consultancy to people who self-harm, their
friends and families and professionals.
Recover Your Life offers an open and non-judgemental support community for those who self-harm or are struggling with other mental health problems.
Some people find that doing other things can help to distract from their urge to cause themselves harm. Some ideas of what has worked for other young people can be found below:
Information from the Royal College of Psychiatrists:
The Teen Help Forum has a list of distraction suggestions which you do not need to sign in to access.